So.
It's said pretty easily and freely, go with the flow. But it's one of the most important phrases ever uttered. Not cuz going with the flow is easier, though it is. And not because it makes us a lot more satisfied and a lot happier, though it does. And not because it can be utilized in work and creation as a tool so powerful it will knock the faces off you and all those around you, though it can. But all three of those reasons, all bundled up and bound together into a great big fucking pile of life being awesome. And then some other stuff also, so lets do this thing.
***Resisting is always harder.***
As you go throughout your day, and deal with all the colorful people that are bound to be all up in it and so on, it's true that many things can and will happen which could and would disturb your peace and sense of well being. The following information, I should say, is only useful to those who have seen that living drama to drama, whether happy dramas or sad, living event to event, reaction to reaction is inherently unsatisfying and a never ending cycle, which only ever leads to disappointment in the very end, and who are actively seeking another way to live which they have known in their hearts they have been somehow seeking always. Because otherwise you may "need" those cycles. Which is coo.
So as you go through this dayitty, and as each situation arises, you can atune yourself with effort into a very special way of operating, and that is 'going with the flow' in it's more specific sense, so let's call it going with the fliggitty. Frankly, I wish to call it this because it causes me great amusement. If you can do this, not only will all your days be easier and better but you will get so much done and everything will be so relaxed and there will be no chaos- *no matter what anyone else does or says.*
Mkay.
When relating to people, there are two ways to have a conversation. One is a way in which there is commentary. If you'd like to compare it to say a football game, you could say, in the stands. When -this- type of conversation is happening people are talking *about* stuff. Or people, or happenings. "She said this and he said this" - in the stands. "I read this article and it made me really mad and here's why" - in the stands. "You shouldn't have said that to her because" - in the stands. "Here are my reasons why this is important" - in the stands. Now I'm not saying this is a bad kind of conversation to have. I'm just trying to explain so you can recognize it. What you notice is that nothing is being done, and nothing is being suggested. At any point if you just stopped talking and stood in silence and so did everyone else you would see that nothing was actually happening, right there where you were, right then- cept talking. So any goals here are related to winning in the talking, to the egoic desire to be right and have others be wrong. Not moving forward. Just moving your ego forward.
So if you aren't in the stands, where are you? Duh, field. Keeping your conversations "on the field," if mastered and combined with the ability to remain present, (focused on only what's actually happening) can give you ultimate power in anything you choose to approach with it. And not the ickitty kind of power. The magic kind. :D
On the field every word, every *thought* is related to action. And what is actually happening, and what is actually the goal. Focus is never on what *can't* be done, it's always on what *can* be done, now. It's never on what *has* happened, it's only ever on what *is* happening, and I just need to say here... I'll tell you what kittens... I can't really stress this enough-
what we are thinking of and reacting to and talking about and vibrating in this, our beautiful life, is oh so very, very rarely what is *actually happening right now* -- and it is *this* that causes an extremely high percentage of our misery. Very, very high.
Presence is focus on what *is*.
Because -what can be done about any situation right now that isn't fucking happening right now?- Ima tell you- NOTHING. Ep-- NOTHING.
Do you know what all your worrying and emotion tied into what isn't even happening right now does to your life? It's not even just neutral, I mean it's not even *just* that you are missing out on the incredible awesomeness of not being worried and not feeling judged all the time and not having guilt and not being mad. It's -also-, also that you are literally feeding, growing, creating, that life, that worry, those thoughts. And making things worse and worse. Think in your head one person that you know is totally lost in their thinking about life. Maybe, you *are* that person. I used to be.
How much of their experience are they enjoying? How much of yours are you?
Focus on the now always only involves you and your contribution, also. What's going on in other people's heads can not be known by you, Ever, and is -definitely- not what is happening now. Ever. Also not happening right now is any story you are telling: Ever.
Do you know what those words you sling about that idiot who pissed you off does to your life? Not his life, not the idiot's, like you wanted. Yours. I get you told this story so that others would agree with you. Cuz you're looking for satisfaction, damn it, and it feels temporarily satisfying to be agreed with. On accounta our anger comes from feeling like we have the right to/need to control the behavior in others. Or should have any say in how they live. WE know how they should be behaving. How come they don't? We're just so right- how come they can't just get how fucking wrong they are? Idiots. If someone agrees with us we feel justified and better about our anger-but that doesn't stop the anger, but we don't see that at first. But guess what, it doesn't affect the idiots as much as it does you. See cuz now, the anger you have over his idiot tendencies color the next time you see that friend. He acts like a bigger idiot. Promise. Just like you expected him to. And the relationship deteriorates and whatever made you friends in the first place gets all swallowed up by idiot. Then other idiots pop up. Strangers are all idiots. Feeeeding, kittens. The things we do not want in this life do not have to be in our experience, and if and when we stopped feeding them, they wouldn't be.
Giving that shit up, and steering all the conversations you are in toward action that makes things better for all takes loving, and you hafta drop what YOU want out of the equation, and lots of times you don't spend time convincing others you are right. You don't get the "fun" of the argument or of "winning" it. You don't get to be mad. You don't get to be insulted. You don't get all the other people agreeing with you. You don't get revenge for that last bullshit they pulled on you.
I know, I know- what the fuck DO you get? Well I'll tell you:
You get to be the most helpful, loving person in any given situations that may arise, always, to steer action in ways that bring about yours and everyone else's goals whenever possible, which begins to be a lot more than you thought, over and over, making more and more moments of your day more and more and more pleasant and joyful for you and everyone around you, until suddenly nearly all your life is full of happy.
You get the unmatched experience of looking at those around you with love, choosing to see the best rather than the worst in them, (what made you friends in the first place!) and holding them up in the best light possible- they in turn feel how you are seeing them for their best and not their worst, and then you get the most wonderful, sweetest joys imaginable in watching them shine in that light, and they will, cats and kittens, yes they will, and you can give this love to everyone, and anyone, on accounta you have more than enough, you have an endless supply, you really do.
You get to watch as all of your ventures and adventures in this life (and there would be many) go the best possible ways they can, all the time. And if they don't go how you plan, you just move forward, like you've been doing, you don't need to get upset when you're always moving forward, cause it feels good to move forward, it feels easy. And pretty soon you are living that way- just moving on right when anything happens, just leaving it there and going you see that you are always going, see where you are- always, see that there is always something happening now, so really, nothing is ever not going according to plan once your plan is now, is it? Because the only plan is what is happening.
And then you see this path, a path of least resistance, which slides you right on through your life, your happy, love filled life, and all you do, like... magic. And happy makes happier and happier, love loves love, and soon you are bound to change your world to match this happy, just by your vibration, and shit will happen which will blow your mind, please just trust me on that one.
So me, I think it's worth it, if you get all that. Just sayin'.
But it only matters to you.
-Amber
P.S. Fliggitty.
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