I was gonna write about guilt. But then I realized that blame is really identical.
For example- both are completely wasted energy, because their base is solely in past, and never in present, which is the only time that matters. They are both a way of trapping ourselves in bad feeling, during moments that would and could feel good if we could only just see what is around us right now, and be living in the now, and see that in the now we/they have not done anything wrong, and that in truth we/they have never done anything wrong, because there is no wrong. Not here, now. Unless we put it there. In the now, all can be perfect and beautiful. Exactly as perfect and beautiful as we decide to make it, and maybe we would decide to make it so, were it not for the guilt and/or blame (or fear) keeping us trapped far away ago, in the past.
'Far away ago in the past,' by the way is 5 seconds ago, when considered while being mindful of the prospect of absolute joy and beauty which could be in now. Because now always contains this very possibility. Always.
Guilt and blame both come from accepting ideas of right and wrong- and from a perspective of trying to live up to the unlivable standard of what is right and what is wrong, and constantly expecting others to live up to it. We expect this even though they of course could never *know* our ideas of right and wrong, and likely have totally different ones motivating *their* actions, which of course seem right to them. And, of course, everybody's ideas about right and wrong are constantly changing anyway. Since an absolute real right and wrong doesn't even exist, and so can never actually be learned or achieved or lived or discovered.
Since how you feel right now is all there is. Which makes BEING the only "right" thing to do. And in just being there is only love.
The reason it feels so shitty to feel guilty, or to blame others, is that this is so far out of whack with what's really going on inside us, with who we know deep down we are- and who we know they are too. Which is life: Perfection, an expression of divine love-worthy, holy, powerful, beautiful. One with god always. How can what is one with god be anything less than perfect? If you see the above in you, if see it in them- you are seeing the way the universe sees. This is how god wants you to see yourself, it is how you *would* see yourself if you were looking at yourself through the eyes of truth.
No matter what you have done.
It is how you would see others if you were looking through the eyes of truth.
No matter what they have done.
Hanging on to guilt or blame is the practice of sacrificing joy and peace for no positive result. Neither has any benefit for us or for others. In fact, because of the power of our focus, guilt and blame accomplish ensuring that there will be further things to feel guilty about, or blame others for. The anger and judgement we fear from others will be manifested. The anger and judgement we subject ourselves to will manifest also. The mistakes we worry about making will be made. Fear breeds itself. Fear is what both guilt and blame are bred from.
Guilt makes a person feel terrible without accomplishing what is its true underlying goal- loving others, or loving yourself. If you didn't love somebody, you would not convince yourself it was worth it to feel guilt over how you've treated them. If you didn't want to love yourself, you would have no desire to not do things that you have decided are 'wrong.' But your guilt keeps you away from noticing what is available to you in now. Because you could instead love them now. You could instead love yourself now.
Blame makes a person feel angry, hurt and powerless without accomplishing what is its true underlying goal- making the relationship harmonious. If you didn't love somebody, you would not convince yourself it was sensible to feel anger or hurt over how they've treated you. But your blame keeps you away from noticing what is available to you in now. Because you could instead love them now. You could have a healed relationship, even if just from your perspective, now. And you could let past moments go and enjoy time you might get to spend with them, now. If you want to. If you chose to.
Love is how you release guilt AND blame, and how you see truth in any given situation or relationship, any time.
No matter what anyone else does you can always choose love. And you may not realize it, but the relationships we have, all of them, are mirrors for what we see in ourselves.
Your fear, your guilt, your blame- does have power. But love has more power. Infinitely more. And expressions of real love for anyone in any moment, or for yourself, in any moment, dismantle all fear, and guilt, and blame.
We are perfect, cats and kittens.
See it, and love.
Amber
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